Save The Date: Choosing Your Wedding Venue

I’ve finally done it! I’ve finally booked my wedding venue and we finally have a guaranteed wedding date. The wedding planning process consists of making decision after decision. Choosing your venue is one of the first big decisions that you have to make. Your choice of venue kind of dictates everything else. Your wedding date, your vendors, your honeymoon, your dress, etc. Everything begins to fall into place once you book your venue. Since I’ve finally done the deed, I feel like I should share my most helpful tips for choosing your venue.

Narrow your search down BEFORE you start visiting venues

There are a lot of ways to filter through the long list of wedding venues. You can save yourself a lot of headache and confusion by getting your list down to no more than FIVE venues before you start making tour appointments. Continue reading

Dating A Gamer

If you’re dating a guy who’s under thirty-five, there’s a good chance that he likes to play videogames. There’s also a good chance that if he does enjoy playing videogames, then he might play them more than you would like for him to. My fiancé is somewhat of a gamer. I don’t think he goes overboard with it (ex. he doesn’t dress up like the characters, he usually comes to bed at a decent hour, and he’s not going broke because he won’t stop buying games/consoles), but I do realize that some people may not know how to deal with a guy who has this hobby. Personally, I don’t mind videogames but that is probably due to the fact that my dad and I would play videogames when I was a child. I grew up seeing grown men enjoy videogames but also be functioning adults (ex. They went to work, they took care of their children, etc.). Now I’m about to marry someone who’s just like that.


However, I know that a lot of ladies my age find themselves feeling like they have to compete with videogames for attention from their man. I know because I’ve been there. I’ve fought this battle plenty of times throughout my four-year relationship and I can honestly say this: videogames are not the worst distraction for your man to have. Here’s why: Continue reading

Living With Your “Bae”

I know that “shacking up” has a somewhat negative connotation in certain cultures, particularly amongst African American women, but more young people are ignoring the stigma and moving in with their significant others nowadays. After four years of dating my then-boyfriend/now-fiancé, I “officially” became one of those people last summer.

MY “SHACKING UP” STORY

My fiancé and I started dating when we were twenty and twenty-one year olds in college. At that time, we both had our own apartments (with roommates) and we lived an hour apart from one another because we were attending universities in different cities. For most of the time that we were in college, I drove to his apartment every weekend and spent the weekends with him. So I lived at my apartment for five days out of the week and at his for two days. Different circumstances and deciding that we didn’t want roommates anymore led to him staying at my apartment for a few months and then me staying at his apartment for a few months, but we were never on a lease together and we never paid bills together until now. Continue reading

OMG, I Left My E-ring at Home!

This past Thursday, I did the unthinkable.

I accidentally left my engagement ring at home.

Here’s how it happened…

 I always wear my e-ring when I’m sleeping. Even when it was too big, I was still wearing it everywhere. I mean, this is something I had been wanting for most of this year so of course I’m wearing it no matter what. But I’m also very vigilant about keeping it clean and keeping it safe. So when I’m putting any type of product on my hands (i.e. Makeup, lotion) or when I’m near any open drains (i.e. Any sink or bathtub), I take it off and put it on my dresser or on top of my makeup organizers. On this particular day, I set the ring on top of my makeup organizers, put my makeup and lotion on and then I went to work. Since it’s colder now, I always put a second coat of lotion on my hands when I get to my desk. This usually means I have to take my ring off briefly and that’s when I noticed that my ring was already off. I had never put it back on before I left the house! Luckily, my fiancé was still at home and said that he would bring the ring to me so that I didn’t have to leave work or be without it all day. I was only without my ring for nearly four hours but I felt so awkward without it. My hand felt naked. I could see a small indentation in my finger where my ring was supposed to be. I was trying to keep my left hand hidden until I got it back. It really gave me a little bit of anxiety. I kept thinking that people were going to notice the missing ring and ask me about it (no one did). I told a couple of my female coworkers about it and they assured me that it won’t be the last time I forget to put it on, and as time goes on it won’t even be something that I feel the need to turn around for. But right now, since it’s so new to me, I’ve decided that I’m just not taking it off anymore.

Valentine’s Day! ♥ ♥ ♥

I finally got around to buying my boyfriend’s Valentine’s Day gift (a gold watch) a few days ago. So now my Valentine’s Day “week” has officially ended. It was amazing. I know a lot of people try to act like Valentine’s Day is stupid and “everyday should be Valentine’s Day if you’re in a real relationship” (*insert side eye emoji*). But to be honest, this years Valentine’s Day actually was a lot like any other day in our relationship (minus the long distance part). We did a whole lot of nothing together; which is always fun if you’re with the right person. We ran errands and he accompanied me on my frivolous shopping trips (I know he was bored in the stores but he was such a sweetie about it). When I got home after work on Friday, he had rose petals, mimosas and a hot bath waiting for me. We decided against going out and having to fight for a table at crowded restaurants on Saturday night, so he cooked for me and we got some movies from Redbox. Of course the weekend wouldn’t have been complete without ice cream, roses and some new jewelry. Valentine’s Day may just be my favorite holiday since all the other ones suck now. Also, he’s been here during an extremely exciting moment in my life that I will soon be sharing in a separate post. Stay tuned!