Tag: engagement

Dating A Gamer

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If you’re dating a guy who’s under thirty-five, there’s a good chance that he likes to play videogames. There’s also a good chance that if he does enjoy playing videogames, then he might play them more than you would like for him to. My fiancé is somewhat of a gamer. I don’t think he goes overboard with it (ex. he doesn’t dress up like the characters, he usually comes to bed at a decent hour, and he’s not going broke because he won’t stop buying games/consoles), but I do realize that some people may not know how to deal with a guy who has this hobby. Personally, I don’t mind videogames but that is probably due to the fact that my dad and I would play videogames when I was a child. I grew up seeing grown men enjoy videogames but also be functioning adults (ex. They went to work, they took care of their children, etc.). Now I’m about to marry someone who’s just like that.


However, I know that a lot of ladies my age find themselves feeling like they have to compete with videogames for attention from their man. I know because I’ve been there. I’ve fought this battle plenty of times throughout my four-year relationship and I can honestly say this: videogames are not the worst distraction for your man to have. Here’s why: Continue reading →

Living With Your “Bae”

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I know that “shacking up” has a somewhat negative connotation in certain cultures, particularly amongst African American women, but more young people are ignoring the stigma and moving in with their significant others nowadays. After four years of dating my then-boyfriend/now-fiancé, I “officially” became one of those people last summer.

MY “SHACKING UP” STORY

My fiancé and I started dating when we were twenty and twenty-one year olds in college. At that time, we both had our own apartments (with roommates) and we lived an hour apart from one another because we were attending universities in different cities. For most of the time that we were in college, I drove to his apartment every weekend and spent the weekends with him. So I lived at my apartment for five days out of the week and at his for two days. Different circumstances and deciding that we didn’t want roommates anymore led to him staying at my apartment for a few months and then me staying at his apartment for a few months, but we were never on a lease together and we never paid bills together until now. Continue reading →

2015 Recap/2016 Resolutions

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2015 has been such a good year for me.

I started the year off working a three-month long temp job assignment, I was in a long distance relationship with my then-boyfriend, and I was living at my parents’ house. By MARCH, my temp job had turned into a full-time permanent position with the company. My boyfriend who came down South to visit for Valentine’s Day ended up never going back to his hometown in New Jersey. In MAY, we signed a lease for our own apartment and we moved into our first place together in JULY. In AUGUST, I went to Las Vegas with my girls for the first time. Shortly after, I started cooking the recipes that I saw on Pinterest and playing fantasy football with my boyfriend and his friends (my record was 10-3). In SEPTEMBER, I went to Washington DC for the first time (I know, I should’ve been there years ago) for a family reunion. My “boyfriend” became my fiancé in NOVEMBER. And now here we are at the very end of DECEMBER where I just had an amazing Christmas with my soon-to-be in-laws.

It may be hard to do, but I believe 2016 will top the amazing year I’ve had in 2015.

These are the things I am claiming for my 2016:
– Get back in the gym! I really slacked off on my workouts in 2015, but I’m trying to be in the best shape of my life in 2016.
– Build up my emergency fund. I have a good cushion in there right now, but you can never be too cautious.
– Get MARRIED! Or at least set a date and know the details of my nuptials.
– Have a 750+ credit score. I’m already in the 700 club, but there’s always room to improve.
– Get on a good schedule with my blog posts. This is another area that’s been neglected in 2015. I really like blogging, so I have to do better.

OMG, I Left My E-ring at Home!

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This past Thursday, I did the unthinkable.

I accidentally left my engagement ring at home.

Here’s how it happened…

 I always wear my e-ring when I’m sleeping. Even when it was too big, I was still wearing it everywhere. I mean, this is something I had been wanting for most of this year so of course I’m wearing it no matter what. But I’m also very vigilant about keeping it clean and keeping it safe. So when I’m putting any type of product on my hands (i.e. Makeup, lotion) or when I’m near any open drains (i.e. Any sink or bathtub), I take it off and put it on my dresser or on top of my makeup organizers. On this particular day, I set the ring on top of my makeup organizers, put my makeup and lotion on and then I went to work. Since it’s colder now, I always put a second coat of lotion on my hands when I get to my desk. This usually means I have to take my ring off briefly and that’s when I noticed that my ring was already off. I had never put it back on before I left the house! Luckily, my fiancé was still at home and said that he would bring the ring to me so that I didn’t have to leave work or be without it all day. I was only without my ring for nearly four hours but I felt so awkward without it. My hand felt naked. I could see a small indentation in my finger where my ring was supposed to be. I was trying to keep my left hand hidden until I got it back. It really gave me a little bit of anxiety. I kept thinking that people were going to notice the missing ring and ask me about it (no one did). I told a couple of my female coworkers about it and they assured me that it won’t be the last time I forget to put it on, and as time goes on it won’t even be something that I feel the need to turn around for. But right now, since it’s so new to me, I’ve decided that I’m just not taking it off anymore.

4 Things You Should Know About Getting Engaged

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I’ve been engaged for almost a month now and here are the four things that I’ve experienced since the day my fiancé proposed.

You’ll take pictures of your ring (A LOT).

At this point, I probably have more pictures of my engagement ring than I do selfies in my phone. And I take a decent amount of selfies. When you get your e-ring, you just want to look at it all the time and it’s less obvious if you’re looking at a picture on your phone rather than your actual hand. So I take pictures of my e-ring on my hand a lot; probably more than I should actually. Continue reading →