Wedding Etiquette Mistakes

Over the weekend, I did some research on wedding etiquette. And I was a little shocked to find out that some things that I have seen other people and/or was considering doing are deemed poor etiquette. I figured I would share this information because a lot of brides are doing the wedding planning thing for the very first time so most etiquette mistakes are made because the bride didn’t know better, not because she was trying to be rude.

Unplugged ceremonies

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I’ll admit that this was something that I was seriously considering doing at my ceremony. I thought the cute little signs about being present and putting the phones away until the reception were cute. But apparently, they are extremely passive aggressive and snooty. It’s a wedding, not a classroom. So your guests shouldn’t feel like they are being treated like children. That being said, this trend of “unplugging” has risen due to brides (and grooms) “need” to say something that they shouldn’t have to say. If that makes sense…

Specifying the Attire

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Even though you may want to give people a reminder of the suggested attire for your event, it’s rude to do so for two reasons. Continue reading

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5 Things That Are Helping Me Plan My Wedding

I’ve had to take a brief break from posting due to my schedule being overloaded with extra work (I got a promotion) and wedding planning (things are moving really fast now). I’ve had to start juggling all of the things going on in my life during these past few weeks so the blog had to take a backseat for a little bit. But I know I have a few brides and/or potential brides who read my blog, so I figured I would share the five things that I have been using to help me plan my wedding without having my head explode.

Pinterest

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Pinterest is my digital vision board for my wedding. If I need to visualize something regarding décor or attire, Pinterest is my go-to app/website. The main reason why I love it so much is because even if I’m not on Pinterest at the moment, I can still pin things to my wedding board from YouTube, The Knot, Buzzfeed, random sites, etc. I find things everywhere, so it’s great to be able to store it all in one place.

The Knot

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The Knot (app/website/magazine) is something you literally have no use for if you aren’t planning a wedding. I only got familiar with this site after my engagement but it is a godsend. I can find articles about wedding tips, Q&As, vendors, dresses, etc. I could keep listing things but basically any tool you’d ever need to plan a wedding is featured on The Knot. Continue reading

I Said “YES” to the Dress!

Two weeks ago… I said “YES” to the dress.

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I had such an awesome experience that I felt like I needed to write a few helpful tips so that other brides could have the same amazing experience that I had.

Go to a boutique with experienced consultants

I can’t stress this enough. You’ll be able to tell who’s experienced and who isn’t as soon as you walk into a store. Your consultant should be able to help bring your vision to life. In some stores they have girls working there who aren’t really consultants, they are just regular retail associates. You want to avoid stores like that. Read the reviews on bridal boutiques before you visit any. Continue reading

Save The Date: Choosing Your Wedding Venue

I’ve finally done it! I’ve finally booked my wedding venue and we finally have a guaranteed wedding date. The wedding planning process consists of making decision after decision. Choosing your venue is one of the first big decisions that you have to make. Your choice of venue kind of dictates everything else. Your wedding date, your vendors, your honeymoon, your dress, etc. Everything begins to fall into place once you book your venue. Since I’ve finally done the deed, I feel like I should share my most helpful tips for choosing your venue.

Narrow your search down BEFORE you start visiting venues

There are a lot of ways to filter through the long list of wedding venues. You can save yourself a lot of headache and confusion by getting your list down to no more than FIVE venues before you start making tour appointments. Continue reading

3 Mother’s Day Gift Ideas

Mother’s Day is right around the corner and it will be here before you know it. I’ve already managed to find two gifts for my mother but I know that there’s quite a few people who may be struggling to find the perfect gift. I’ve been in that position many times before so I thought it would be helpful for me to share some of my go-to gift ideas for my mother.

Fragrances/Perfumes

I love to give people smell goods as gifts, but I really think it’s a good gift for a mother. The trick to making this a good gift is that you have to know what fragrance your mother will actually like. Therefore, you have to pay attention and you have to put a little effort into figuring out what she likes. This will be a lot easier to do if you regularly go shopping with your mother like I do. We don’t visit beauty counters a lot when we shop but when we do, I make sure I pay attention to anything that she likes. Fragrances aren’t something that most women buy a whole lot of. We typically buy one, maybe two, a year because they tend to be rather pricey. Continue reading

It’s OK to Buy Expensive Things

For the past year or so, I’ve been listening to a lot of personal finance podcasts and reading personal finance blogs. Most of the information in those podcasts and blogs is great but I’ve noticed one trend/theme that I personally don’t like. There seems to be this notion that you cannot like or buy nice things and still be financially stable/secure. First of all, that’s not true at all. You can buy a nice handbag or a luxury car and still have a good credit score with your emergency fund untouched. I know it’s possible because I do it (minus the luxury car, I’m not there yet). But I am definitely the spender in my relationship and neither my bank account nor my credit score have suffered as a result. I do realize that these podcasters/bloggers have to be somewhat general in what they say and that there are exceptions to rules. I know that there are a lot of people who can’t control their shopping habits and I agree that if you can’t control it, then you don’t need to do it. So I take the “no shopping” advice with a grain of salt, because it doesn’t apply to me. HOWEVER… Continue reading

Dating A Gamer

If you’re dating a guy who’s under thirty-five, there’s a good chance that he likes to play videogames. There’s also a good chance that if he does enjoy playing videogames, then he might play them more than you would like for him to. My fiancé is somewhat of a gamer. I don’t think he goes overboard with it (ex. he doesn’t dress up like the characters, he usually comes to bed at a decent hour, and he’s not going broke because he won’t stop buying games/consoles), but I do realize that some people may not know how to deal with a guy who has this hobby. Personally, I don’t mind videogames but that is probably due to the fact that my dad and I would play videogames when I was a child. I grew up seeing grown men enjoy videogames but also be functioning adults (ex. They went to work, they took care of their children, etc.). Now I’m about to marry someone who’s just like that.


However, I know that a lot of ladies my age find themselves feeling like they have to compete with videogames for attention from their man. I know because I’ve been there. I’ve fought this battle plenty of times throughout my four-year relationship and I can honestly say this: videogames are not the worst distraction for your man to have. Here’s why: Continue reading

Staying Committed to Your Workout – There’s An App for That

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to get back in the gym and be in the best shape of my life this year. I am not one of those people who just LOVES going to the gym. I can think of fifty million things that I’d rather do than go to the gym and workout. Even though I pay for my gym membership every month, until this month I hadn’t been to the gym since June 2015. If I’m lazy enough to waste my money then that says a lot.

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I downloaded an app a while ago that is supposed to help you train for a 5K. It’s called Couch Potato to 5K. I first heard of Couch Potato to 5K in a Buzzfeed article about people who had lost over fifty pounds. The guy in this article used this app and he lost 74 pounds in a year! This month, I decided to actually use the app and… I LOVE IT. Going to the gym is still somewhat of a chore but it’s been more enjoyable with this app. Continue reading

Emergency Funds

Saving money can be really difficult for some people, but it’s something you must do so that you can stay in good standing financially. Bad things can happen to good people and sometimes those things can cost you a lot of money. That’s why everyone should have an emergency fund. An emergency fund is a stash of money set aside to cover the financial surprises life throws your way.

Here are some of the top emergencies people face:

  • Job loss.
  • Medical or dental emergency.
  • Unexpected home repairs.
  • Car troubles.
  • Unplanned travel expenses.
  • Legal issues.
2 major benefits of having emergency money.
  • It helps keep your stress level down.

It’s no surprise that when life presents an emergency, it threatens your financial well-being and causes stress. If you’re living without a safety net, you’re living on the “financial” edge—hoping to get by without running into a crisis. Being prepared with an emergency fund gives you confidence that you can tackle any of life’s unexpected events without adding money worries to your list. Continue reading

Living With Your “Bae”

I know that “shacking up” has a somewhat negative connotation in certain cultures, particularly amongst African American women, but more young people are ignoring the stigma and moving in with their significant others nowadays. After four years of dating my then-boyfriend/now-fiancé, I “officially” became one of those people last summer.

MY “SHACKING UP” STORY

My fiancé and I started dating when we were twenty and twenty-one year olds in college. At that time, we both had our own apartments (with roommates) and we lived an hour apart from one another because we were attending universities in different cities. For most of the time that we were in college, I drove to his apartment every weekend and spent the weekends with him. So I lived at my apartment for five days out of the week and at his for two days. Different circumstances and deciding that we didn’t want roommates anymore led to him staying at my apartment for a few months and then me staying at his apartment for a few months, but we were never on a lease together and we never paid bills together until now. Continue reading